Dennis Dossett

Dennis L. Dossett
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    Several months ago, I became aware of a television series concerning peoples’ experiences of discrimination. Most episodes were focused on “race” as one would typically think of it, but some episodes branched out by including other minority groups (for example, physically, mentally, or developmentally disabled, religious groups, etc.).

    After seeing one particular episode, Spirit “suggested” the possibility of several related topics for blogs which I took as just short of a directive (but it is still my choice). I developed a basic outline of topics and started writing the first blog. At that point Spirit interjected, “suggesting” that I consider adding a new topic to the list and making it the first item in the outline. I also took that suggestion as a directive because it made such perfectly good sense (there are no “accidents”). That became last month’s blog, “The First Step Toward the Ultimate Life Lesson,” dealing with Tolerance.

    The episode that really caught my attention was focused on the LGBTQ community. It showed a number of “snippets” of interviews with people who didn’t “look” any different than anyone else you might expect to meet on a city sidewalk. But these people were considered as “different” by most members of any majority group. By any reasonable measure, the interviewees were simply ordinary people whose life choices had set them apart from the “majority” (whatever that is), leading them to experience incredibly unkind and downright cruel behaviors and practices broadly labeled “discrimination.”

    One snippet in that episode showed a 50-something white man (with an obviously very masculine body) saying, “All we ask is to be treated with unconditional acceptance.” While that seems like a very simple and obvious statement, its complexity and profundity suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks. It was one of those, “Duhhh!” realizations that really got me thinking about Acceptance, “The Second Step Toward the Ultimate Life Lesson.”

    So, just what is “Acceptance?” I particularly appreciate the definition provided by Wikipedia: “Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) that is a fait accompli without attempting to change it or protest it.” Think about that for a moment. It is exactly what that LGBTQ gentleman was talking about in that episode.

    The Wikipedia article provides an excellent discussion of the many aspects and applications of Acceptance and concludes with “Acceptance is contrasted with resistance, a term that has strong political and psychoanalytic connotations that do not apply in most contexts.” But it absolutely applies to the context of spiritual development. Acceptance is non-resistance, a beginning point in Allowing one’s life energies to flow freely in Alignment with Higher Self. Wikipedia continues:

• “To simplify, acceptance means allowing; allowing unwanted private experiences (thoughts, feelings, and urges) to come and go without struggling with them (a.k.a. non-resistance).”

    Like “The First Step,” Acceptance is not a simple, binary (all or nothing) phenomenon. It is a fairly broad continuum of attitudes and behaviors characterized more by degree than by presence vs. absence. In fact, the first and second “steps” are not completely independent. One doesn’t “leave” one step and “enter” the next by any clearly discernable behavior or criterion. The “steps” are really a matter of “growing into” a higher level of consciousness by gradual degrees. So, why talk about separate “steps” at all? Well, we have to start somewhere with some kind of organization to simplify matters or we would get nowhere at all really fast. So, please bear with me for a few moments.

    As I noted in “The First Step” blog, “Toleration is when one allows, permits, or accepts an action, idea, object, or person that one dislikes or disagrees with.” (Oxford Languages) Acceptance, on the other hand, includes Tolerance but goes beyond it in terms of willingness to tolerate, to the point of acknowledgment, recognition, and welcoming. It may eventually go as far as approval, consent or concurrence, cooperation, and it may even go as far as trust, believing, and even embracing something or someone outside of one’s comfort zone. That is a very broad spectrum, but it is all a matter of degree. I’ll have more to say about that presently. In the meantime, this is what Maitreya (Ascended Master channeled by Margaret McElroy) has to say:

• “One of the most important lessons of spiritual development is ACCEPTANCE. True acceptance comes from your heart, without judgment or criticism, without conditioning, prejudice, emotional attachment or pride. Acceptance is simply accepting everyone for who they are, and everything for what it is. Acceptance also means that you need to accept yourself for who you truly are. A truly spiritual person understands that all things are perfect in the Universe; there are no accidents; every soul is a Divine Spirit. This is each person’s birthright. Acceptance requires that you have an open heart of true compassion and embody the full acceptance of the process of life, for everyone and everything being perfect, as they are, in this moment. Acceptance also requires you to have total faith and trust in the process of life, even though at times you will not know or understand the reason behind what is happening.” (Maitreya Wisdom Card #2)

    Sounds a lot like that definition of Acceptance in Wikipedia, doesn’t it? The hardest part of Acceptance for nearly all of us is accepting things (and especially people) as perfect just as they are. “Perfect for what”? you might ask. The answer (given to me just now by Spirit in response to my wife’s question regarding certain political figures and organizations around the world) is simply this: “Perfect for their soul evolution, and perfect for your soul evolution.” In other words, there are lessons to be learned on both sides of the coin, lessons of Acceptance by them (whoever “they” may be) and lessons of Acceptance of them (by me). All of it is about soul evolution (a.k.a. “spiritual development”) for everyone on both sides of the coin—regardless of the coin! (There are “no accidents,” remember? Thank you, Spirit! LOL!)

    But to what or when do we extend our Acceptance to others? This is where our old nemesis—judgment—gets involved. Do we extend acceptance only to those things, activities, or people within our comfort zone? Or have we allowed our comfort zone to expand, encompassing all of humanity, not just tolerating them but fully accepting them as they are? That is a major STEP on the path toward the Ultimate Life Lesson.

    Wait a minute. It sounds like we can't move into Acceptance at all without unconditional Tolerance, right? NO! We can begin to move into conditional Acceptance without unconditional Tolerance, but conditional Tolerance will certainly delay or stop fully unconditional Acceptance. That is a higher degree of growth. No one (not even Spirit) is asking “perfection” of anyone. Our task in this lifetime on the Earth plane is to work toward becoming a better version of ourselves—at whatever pace and in whatever fashion we choose. The “Curse of Free Will” has a lot to do with why it takes many lifetimes to even begin to address the “Ultimate Life Lesson.”

    So, how do we keep judgment in Acceptance from becoming a major STOP rather than a STEP? The answer is unconditional acceptance, non-judgment. In previous blogs I stated that judgment STOPS spiritual development (spiritual stagnation). Conditional acceptance is a necessary condition for beginning to move forward into “The Third Step Toward the Ultimate Life Lesson.” Completion of that Third Step, however, eventually requires unconditional acceptance (or as close as you are able to get to it at the moment). It's all a matter of degree as we grow through daily life.

    But a STOP in spiritual development at any step is not permanent; we always have the opportunity to regain momentum no matter how many lifetimes it may take to do so. Soul evolution is generally slow growth, but it takes only as long as we continue to resist the natural flow of our life energies (Allowing) toward their Alignment with Higher Self.

• “At this time in humanity’s energetic/spiritual evolution, we have the opportunity to consciously co-create ‘The New Paradigm,’ or what some call ‘create heaven on earth.’ This philosophy is that, when we are consciously evolving into the highest version of ourselves, we will no longer choose to experience anything other than helpful and loving interactions. We will not have to ‘forgive’ ourselves or others because we know that everything happens exactly the way it is supposed to. We are in a state of complete acceptance of whatis.’ There is no judgment, no ‘good and bad’ nor ‘right or wrong.’ The phrase ‘It is what it is’ is a popular one in this culture, and it reflects in a small way this ‘New Paradigm.’ We will stop blaming others for difficulties or unhappiness and accept responsibility to change ourselves and create happiness and fulfillment in our inner and outer life.” ~ Denise Roberge (American spiritual blogger; “Self Love and the New Paradigms”)

    But soul evolution is a conscious choice! We will continue this discussion in the next blog, “The Third Step Toward the Ultimate Life Lesson.” Until then,

Have a great month!


“Old habits die hard, but with a little faith and a lot of hard work, they die before you do!”
~ Dennis L. Dossett (Dancing with the Energy - Book 1: The Foundations of Conscious Living) ~