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The “3 R's” of Conscious Living©
Dennis L. Dossett
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We usually think of the “3 R’s” as having to do with the fundamentals or the foundation of elementary education, namely “reading, ‘riting, and ‘rithmatic” (spelling is obviously not a part of this list—LOL!). Since its first known use in the early 19th century, the “3 R’s” have been applied to many other topics as well but, regardless of context, the meaning almost always refers to the “fundamentals” (a contemporary example is Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle). As such, the “3 R’s” are often useful to help us remember (and hopefully apply) whatever those “3 R’s” represent.
The same is true for Conscious Living, both the substance of and the subtitle of my three Dancing with the Energy books. When I wrote those books, my friends in Spirit hadn’t yet given me the “3 R’s of Conscious Living,” but since then a number of my clients report that they have been a very helpful mnemonic when they needed it in the heat of some situation (a.k.a. life!). So, what are they?
Fundamentally (pun intended), this refers to relaxing tension of any kind, including physical tension, most frequently felt in one’s body as “tightened muscles.” Physical tension is an obvious indicator when it comes to resisting something or someone in one’s environment (see last month’s blog, When is Resistance Not Resistance?). The simple fact is that physical tension inhibits or blocks the creative flow of your life energies regardless of the task at hand (just ask any professional athlete, artist, writer, craftsman, businessman, or scientist!).
Another important aspect of Conscious Living is relaxing mental tension (a.k.a. “worrying”) Abraham (channeled by Esther Hicks) tells us that “worrying is creating what you don’t want.” Worry notoriously saps your energy and attention by fruitlessly draining it away from creatively engaging with whatever is in your life experience at the moment. It is just another form of resistance to allowing your life energies to flow naturally, unhindered.
A third aspect of Conscious Living is relaxing emotional tension. “What is that?” I can hear you ask. Well, have you ever felt tense when you enjoy something? Do you feel relaxed when things in life aren’t going very well? In other words, don’t try to explain it; your feelings provide a more immediate and much deeper level of understanding than trying to describe it. In short, if you feel negativity of any kind, you are resisting (intentionally or not) the natural flow of your life energies. If you feel positive, uplifted, you are relaxing into the flow of allowing your life energies to flow freely.
Abraham (channeled by Esther Hicks) calls it the “art of allowing.” Why “art”? Because it is a learned skill that can be creatively applied to almost any and every life situation. Its effective use is honed and perfected through the practices of Conscious Living and must become a functional habit if you really want to manifest anything or, more importantly, if you want to become the Master of your life rather than being mastered by life.
The second of the “3 R’s” is to release emotional tension. Wait, isn’t that just repeating what I said two paragraphs ago? Not exactly. They are, indeed, closely related, but Releasing negative emotions is a matter of detaching from them, a necessary precursor to relaxing emotional tension. Detaching from it or Releasing it is how you relax!
Learning to detach from the emotional body is extremely important. Positive emotions don’t create tension. It is only negative emotions that wreck and rule our lives. Detaching from negative emotions is a critical factor in learning to be the Master of one’s life. Maitreya (channeled by Margaret McElroy) wrote and spoke extensively regarding detachment from the emotional body. For example:
• “It is the emotional body which the [Lower] Self hangs on to, holding on to the fear, doubt, jealousy, anger, greed, etc.” (Maitreya Newsletter #201, July 18, 2007)
• “Do not allow the [Lower] Self to pull you back with emotion and fear. Detach and see the purpose of the experience.” (Maitreya Newsletter #219, December 29, 2008)
• “Nothing is real, all is illusion, but until you can raise your vibration away from the Earth plane and move into detachment, you will never see this.” (Maitreya Newsletter #241, August 29, 2009)
• “The more people that can remain positive, non-judgmental, and detached, the more light can be brought to the dark areas of the world.” (Maitreya Newsletter #4, November 12, 2000)
• “In order to reach Ascension and enlightenment, one needs to have controlled the emotional body, and detached from all that is material.” (Maitreya Newsletter #4, May 23, 2004)
• “The peace that surpasses all understanding is a situation of detachment, where no one mirrors for you anymore, nothing concerns you, and you have no fear.” (Maitreya Newsletter #159, July 31, 2005)
One of the major problems many often face is detaching from people, things, events, etc. that are currently in their life. There is nothing wrong with having any of those things in your life and there is no need to detach from them unless they are not serving you. If they are a source of distraction, discomfort, unhappiness, or are a source of doubt, hesitancy, fear—any negative emotion—you need to detach. In short, if it isn’t helping you (especially not helping to raise your vibration), it is hindering you. It is creating resistance pure and simple.
There are many wonderful tools (and professional assistance) available to help you to accomplish releasing emotional tension. I have described many of them several times in my blogs, on the “Services” pages of this website, and provide a more complete discussion in my books. The important point here is that these are all tools that can assist you to truly detach (heal) from emotional tension. However, true healing is an inside job; it can only occur if you do the work required to heal. Remember, doing (tools and techniques) is an important step on the road to becoming. But doing something is not the same thing as becoming and it cannot replace the end state of growing into a better version of yourself.
Receiving, the 3rd “R”, is about becoming. It is really the only reason for Relaxing and Releasing (doing) which are necessary to set the stage for Receiving. Some people get so caught up in doing (tools and techniques) that they forget why they are doing it!
• “Everything that everyone desires—whether it is a material object, a physical condition, a financial situation, or a harmonious relationship—is wanted for only one reason: they believe they will feel better in having it.” ~ Abraham (Collective consciousness of Spirit as channeled by Esther Hicks; The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships, 2009, p. 164)
Manifesting what you desire—whether spiritual or material—is receiving, and you must be open to it or it will likely not happen. Of course, you’re “open” to it! Why else would you desire it? True, but how many conditions are you putting on receiving it? Every time you add another “if”, “when”, or “but”, you make it more difficult to manifest anything (see my recent blog Life as “Improv”).
And if you are looking for guidance from Spirit, don’t be surprised if the message you receive is not what you want to hear. Your Spirit Guides are there to help you to raise your vibration, not to cater to your lower nature. And they won’t tell you what to do or what not to do because that would violate your free will; there’s karma to be paid for that and they are not going there!
There may also be some lessons to learn, karma to repay, and/or trapped energy to be released before you are able to manifest what you desire. Raising your vibration is about becoming a better version of yourself, not doing any specific thing, chanting specific words, nothing. ... Nothing but learning life lessons, balancing karma (which comes with lessons) and detaching from trapped or unused energy (which also comes with lessons).
Aside from that (it doesn’t really seem like very much does it?), all of my greatest teachers indicate that we are intended to live lives of joy and abundance. That is the process of Conscious Living, and it all begins with Allowing your life energies to flow freely and in Alignment with your Higher Self. And that depends on your learning how to effectively use the “3 R’s” in your life.
The “3 R’s” of Conscious Living are like a 3-legged stool. Can you sit (with feet off of the ground) on a one-legged stool? ... If not, how about two legs? Does that work any better? I doubt it. Only a three (or more)-legged stool will suffice. A stool (a metaphor for life) only “works” when all of its legs are working together. If one leg fails, the stool (life) cannot do what it is intended to do. All three “R’s” are necessary for Conscious Living: Allowing your life energies to be Balanced which, itself, is necessary for completely Aligning your life energies with Higher Self.
I wish you Peace, Health, Happiness, and Abundance in this new year. But most of all, I wish you success in becoming a better version of yourself. The “3 R’s of Conscious Living” can help you with that. The rest is just details and will largely take care of itself.
Have a great month!